After the assault by Tom on Josh, Tom said he would do anything to make it better and actually agreed to go to couple’s counselling, not just because of the assault but because of everything, at least that was my hope. We went to our first session today. The counsellor started by asking us what brought us there. I went to speak but Tom interrupted me and spoke about how difficult life was for him, how terrible Josh was, how hard it was living with me and my moods and he monopolised the entire conversation and our time there. I only spoke once but I felt as though the counsellor wasn’t interested in what I had to say at all, he’d already completely empathised with Tom and I didn’t stand a chance after that. He ended the session by telling Tom how difficult life must be for him and how he completely understands why he lost control with Josh! I couldn’t believe my ears. The counsellor didn’t have any interest in hearing my side of the story.
When we left, Tom had such a big grin on his face, he was so smug and all he could say was it wasn’t as bad as he thought it was going to be. I was the one that wanted us to have counselling together to try and work on our issues but after this, I’m not bothering again. I’m never going back to see that joke of a counsellor, not with or without Tom.