I’ve seen Phil a couple of times since our first meeting and I’m starting to feel really pressured. Every time we see each other, he tells me over and over and over again that he loves me and now he’s started to ask me if I’ll marry him. It’s only been two weeks since we met in person.
I’m acutely aware that one of the first signs of a relationship becoming abusive is a person coming on very strong, very early on. So now, instead of just seeing his actions of kindness, care and love, I’m now feeling scared that it’s all an act and he’s going to be abusive or controlling in some way. I’ve told him that I need him to slow down but he says he can’t help what he’s feeling. I hope he understands that I can’t help what I’m feeling either which right now is massively pressured and suffocated.