I haven’t written here for two months. Taking myself off the dating radar means that I’ve spent loads of quality time with my children. We’ve really thrown ourselves into Annie’s home education journey and we’ve also been learning to live more autonomous lives. I think we’re all happier than we’ve ever been now that we’re no longer ruled by the clock and by someone else’srules of how our lives should be. I’ve also been doing a lot more self-reflection which included reading all about The Nine Types of Intelligence as described by Howard Gardener. I took the test and unsurprisingly my highest level of intelligence is in the area of Intra-personal, followed by Existential and Linguistic.
- Intra-personal ~ Intra-personal intelligence is the capacity to understand oneself and one’s thoughts and feelings, and to use such knowledge in planning and directioning one’s life. Intra-personal intelligence involves not only an appreciation of the self but also of the human condition. It is evident in psychologist, spiritual leaders, and philosophers. These adults may be shy. They are very aware of their own feelings and are self-motivated.
- Existential ~ Sensitivity and capacity to tackle deep questions about human existence, such as the meaning of life, why we die, and how did we get here.
- Linguistic ~ Linguistic intelligence is the ability to think in words and to use language to express and appreciate complex meanings. Linguistic intelligence allows us to understand the order and meaning of words and to apply meta-linguistic skills to reflect on our use of language. Linguistic intelligence is the most widely shared human competence and is evident in poets, novelists, journalists, and effective public speakers. Adults with this kind of intelligence enjoy writing, reading, telling stories or doing crossword puzzles.
I then looked up ideal careers for each of the three types and it overwhelmingly came up writer, psychologist, counsellor and philosopher. Coupled with my Myers-Briggs personality type (INFP), I’m starting to see my destiny being lined up for me. Both also say writer, counsellor or philosopher which comes as no surprise as writing is one of my greatest passions and I’ve wanted to train to be a counsellor since shortly after leaving Tom but have been putting it off to raise the children.
My entire life from the age of about 13 or 14, people have come to me with their problems, whether it’s family members, friends or strangers. I seem to have something about me that makes people feel comfortable enough to open up to me. It happens regularly with my mum, dad, sisters and my nephew. I’ve had it all the time from various friends and I’ve even had dates that have opened up to me. One man the last time I was on a dating site said that he felt as though he could tell me anything and had never opened himself to anyone the way he had with me, and that was only over messages. People must feel safe with me and have a level of trust in me that enables them to open up. And so, when the time is right – when Annie is a bit older and we’ve got the house move out of the way – I wonder if I should at least take an introductory course in counselling and see how I feel about it once I’ve completed it. I guess by taking the course I will have a better understanding of whether it’s something I could do or not. I think that will be the most sensible way to go about things.